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The issue isn’t with Europeans.

The issue is within The Mindset.

I’ve been discriminated against on job interviews from what we call, People of Color.

One incident was even after I was hired! The Persian woman I worked for at Silver Textiles in LA, said they had to “let me go” because she thought that I would not grasp how to do things there. This was something that clearly existed only in her mind and her perception of me. Whether her perception was based on me being a Black Woman or an Introvert or the very likely combination of the two which somehow rendered me inferior to keep the position. I knew that her statement was coming from a biased place and I challenged her by repeating what she had just told me so that she could hear herself and how stupid she sounded. I repeated, “You are letting me go because you think that I will not be able to grasp the computer programs you use.” Like you are not even going to train me. Like this isn’t even a fact because I was not even given the chance to complete the job because I never started on the work that she thought I couldn’t handle! What preconceived notions existed in her mind to make her believe such a thing?! I’ve never received a complaint from her while I was there but suddenly her thoughts are now an issue. You got that last part? HER THOUGHTS ABOUT ME WAS THE ISSUE!!! I did nothing to her, I had not damaged her company! I did no wrong!

Another incident was from an Asian woman that I interviewed with at Claire’s Corporate Headquarters. She told me that I need to be fast-paced. She looked at my portfolio and told me that I would have to work faster. THIS WAS AN INTERVIEW! I was not even working there, all I did was sit down in the chair and explain my experience! How could she just look at my work an determine that I worked to slow?!!! She had never seen me work or my work pace. She only just met me for about 3 minutes! See? There it is again. Something that existed in her mind about me before I even walked through the door. Now who is me? I was just a category in her eyes. Something to be judged, not perceived or learned. She didn’t take the time to get to know me. To interview me. She sat there and judged me, from previous dialogue within herself about people who look like me. She even implied that I would be slow at working because I am from the Mid-West. She said, “this company runs like New York, we aren’t a slow pace Midwestern company.” I told her that I worked in a fast pace environment before when I interned at White House Black Market in Florida. She then actually let these words come out of her mouth, “You don’t know how fast-paced, it is you don’t know!” Mind you her tone was off when she was saying all of this to me. Nearly shouting and talking AT me and not to me. [At this point I just think she had a slight mental illness, although discrimination is a mental illness.]

So as you can see,

it is a mindset.

A dis>ease of the mind.

The mind is not at ease.

It is filled with uneasiness about people they don’t know.

I kind of fear. A distrust.

A damaging interaction.

A distraction,

from all things that really matter.

Now does All lives matter?

Not if you treat me this way, by ignoring my pleas, my cries for help.

What about my well-being? Does my life TRULY matter to you?

You don’t care whether I live or die?

Have a home or homeless.

Sick or healthy.

Rich or unwealthy.

What about my well-being?

This is more than just a job.

in this society.

The people I would pay rent to have no compassion.

That’s why homelessness exist.

How am I suppose to live?

L I V E my L I F E.

Not just be alive, hope not to get shot by police.

But actually L I V E my day-to-day life?

M y   D a y   t o   D a y    L i f e .





Post from Tumblr Blog: http://tamzlavender.tumblr.com/post/66155455794/when-the-issue-of-having-media-for-black-people

When the issue of having media for black people comes up, for some it is deemed as raciest; I find this laughable. If shows like Black Girls Rock and magazines like Jet, Ebony, and Essence didn’t exist I believe we would be even more segregated as a society and undermined as people of color. These outlets were created because “mainstream” media greatly caters to a white audience. All of this can be researched and validated.

I find it even more absurd when these comments are stated from one who is not considered a “minority”. It’s a shame that it can’t even be fathomed to these individuals about the psychological affects that this has and that these affects need to be counteracted with positive affirmations. It feels different and it is different when someone assumes they know all about you just by looking at you. When media shows only negative associations with people of color these images are implanted into our minds and are then brought up in everyday life, reinforcing itself into our psyche.

When you come from a family history of limited opportunities and struggling to make your voice heard, you need an outlet to begin to build a foundation you can stand on. These outlets don’t seem to be given to us by those who have most of the resources to do so; so of course we must uplift ourselves when no one else can or will do it for us.

When my mother was a little girl, she accompanied her mother one day cleaning for a white woman’s home. The woman made a comment about my mother growing up to be a maid too. My mom told the woman “no, I’m going to be a nurse” and that’s just what my mother did. She didn’t listen to the negativity that was around her, the assumptions that she wasn’t capable of making great accomplishments; she pursued her goals and accomplished them! She serves as a great example to me, that no matter what road blocks are in your way, don’t let it stop you. 

The article that prompted this entry: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/olivia-cole/why-im-not-here-for-white_b_4214132.html?utm_hp_ref=tw


Why all the negativity

when one speaks the same language

but with a different…


or shall I say…


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Dialect 1. a variety of a language that is distinguished from other varieties of the same language by features of phonology, grammar, and vocabulary, and by its use by a group of speakers who are set off from others geographically or socially. 2. a provincial, rural, or socially distinct variety of a language that differs from the standard language, especially when considered as substandard. 3. a language considered as one of a group that have a common ancestor

One dictionary definition even states: a form of a language that is considered inferior [World English Dictionary] <(seriously?!!!)

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I never thought of the word dialect within this negative context

why is this considered:

ghetto” “low-class” “ignorant” “bad-grammar” “slang

when using words like,

fin’to | ain’t | a’ight | fo’ sho’

ebonics . black english

sociolect . ethnolect

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Sometimes, I never really hear of the Black-American language being referred to in a positive light.

Maybe things are changing… “Ain’t nobody got time fah’ dat” I’ve heard this quoted by everyone, and I mean everyone. There still may be a bit of…ignorance lingering in the air about these matters though…