The issue isn’t with Europeans.

The issue is within The Mindset.

I’ve been discriminated against on job interviews from what we call, People of Color.

One incident was even after I was hired! The Persian woman I worked for at Silver Textiles in LA, said they had to “let me go” because she thought that I would not grasp how to do things there. This was something that clearly existed only in her mind and her perception of me. Whether her perception was based on me being a Black Woman or an Introvert or the very likely combination of the two which somehow rendered me inferior to keep the position. I knew that her statement was coming from a biased place and I challenged her by repeating what she had just told me so that she could hear herself and how stupid she sounded. I repeated, “You are letting me go because you think that I will not be able to grasp the computer programs you use.” Like you are not even going to train me. Like this isn’t even a fact because I was not even given the chance to complete the job because I never started on the work that she thought I couldn’t handle! What preconceived notions existed in her mind to make her believe such a thing?! I’ve never received a complaint from her while I was there but suddenly her thoughts are now an issue. You got that last part? HER THOUGHTS ABOUT ME WAS THE ISSUE!!! I did nothing to her, I had not damaged her company! I did no wrong!

Another incident was from an Asian woman that I interviewed with at Claire’s Corporate Headquarters. She told me that I need to be fast-paced. She looked at my portfolio and told me that I would have to work faster. THIS WAS AN INTERVIEW! I was not even working there, all I did was sit down in the chair and explain my experience! How could she just look at my work an determine that I worked to slow?!!! She had never seen me work or my work pace. She only just met me for about 3 minutes! See? There it is again. Something that existed in her mind about me before I even walked through the door. Now who is me? I was just a category in her eyes. Something to be judged, not perceived or learned. She didn’t take the time to get to know me. To interview me. She sat there and judged me, from previous dialogue within herself about people who look like me. She even implied that I would be slow at working because I am from the Mid-West. She said, “this company runs like New York, we aren’t a slow pace Midwestern company.” I told her that I worked in a fast pace environment before when I interned at White House Black Market in Florida. She then actually let these words come out of her mouth, “You don’t know how fast-paced, it is you don’t know!” Mind you her tone was off when she was saying all of this to me. Nearly shouting and talking AT me and not to me. [At this point I just think she had a slight mental illness, although discrimination is a mental illness.]

So as you can see,

it is a mindset.

A dis>ease of the mind.

The mind is not at ease.

It is filled with uneasiness about people they don’t know.

I kind of fear. A distrust.

A damaging interaction.

A distraction,

from all things that really matter.

Now does All lives matter?

Not if you treat me this way, by ignoring my pleas, my cries for help.

What about my well-being? Does my life TRULY matter to you?

You don’t care whether I live or die?

Have a home or homeless.

Sick or healthy.

Rich or unwealthy.

What about my well-being?

This is more than just a job.

in this society.

The people I would pay rent to have no compassion.

That’s why homelessness exist.

How am I suppose to live?

L I V E my L I F E.

Not just be alive, hope not to get shot by police.

But actually L I V E my day-to-day life?

M y   D a y   t o   D a y    L i f e .




watching a movie on netflix, Palm Trees in the Snow, wanted to know where Bioko is, looked it up, found pictures of monkey meat along with the search (thats what they eat), saw a picture of a little boy with his neck cut open and a clever next to him, the caption from the website said something about ni**ers, didn’t bother reading the rest…

i cant even search for pictures on the internet with out finding some sort of racialized violence.

then as i continued watching the movie one of the lines was, you wont be able to tell the black people apart, they’re all like sheep

there’s more going on in my head about this, i’m just tired of this






Definition LookUp: Occupational Burnout


More frequently, economic values are placed ahead of human values. The phenomenon is more likely when a mismatch is present between the nature of the job and the person doing the job. A common indication of this mismatch is work overload. It involves doing too much with too few resources, going beyond personal limits.

What I’m going through right now.

I would give my thoughts and reflections but I’m actually too exhausted to do so at the time…

Communication: The Most Important Relationship Goal to Have

Unwasted Mind

You know if there’s one thing I’ve come to learn about human beings is we are extremely complex creatures. There are so many confusing scopes to our own nature that half the time we don’t even know who we are, where we are going, or what we truly want in life. One minute we want a successful career, one minute we want more recreational time, the next moment we’re searching for the perfect mate, and days later we just want to be left alone. When it comes to human beings and our inconsistency with our own emotions, its safe to say much of the time we have no fucking clue what it is we’re doing; plain and simple.

For these reasons is why relationships are so damn hard. There’s a scene in the movie “Hitch” with Will Smith and Eva Mendes during the speed dating scene, where they’re in a…

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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says likability is bullshit—and she’s 100% right


That women care about being liked because society rewards them for it is hardly news. Women who push for what they want are routinely judged for it and called bossy. Being liked and being successful just don’t appear to go hand in hand.

Or perhaps being liked doesn’t matter. As Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie points out, in her acceptance speech for a Girls Write Now award, changing one’s behavior to conform to expectations is a form of dishonesty.

I think that what our society teaches young girls, and I think it’s also something that’s quite difficult for even older women and self-professed feminists to shrug off, is that idea that likability is an essential part of you, of the space you occupy in the world, that you’re supposed to twist yourself into shapes to make yourself likable that you’re supposed to hold back sometimes, pull back, don’t quite say, don’t be…

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Definition LookUp of the Day: LOOT | Thoughts & Reflections

…because of the events of this “Thanksgiving Holiday” week of 2014, lets have a look at the word


spoils or plunder taken by pillaging, as in war

anything taken by dishonesty, force, stealth, etc.

to despoil by taking loot; plunder or pillage (a city, house, etc.), as in war

so, certain people wanted to be pissed about the looters in Ferguson

collectively speaking many are still pissed about the past looters of America. I’m talking about the original looters who took this land away from the Native Americans.

If you feel comfortable with this you have too much privilege.